Real Talk: How Do You Measure Your Self-Worth?

If you are new around my site, occasionally I’ll write posts I like to call “Real Talk”. I use them as an opportunity to discuss a topic that is on my heart lately and they are often related to issues that women are facing. To see previous Real Talk posts, click here

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about self-worth. In the world we live in, we are constantly inundated with messages trying to affect our self-worth. That you should be skinnier, richer, sexier or that for you to feel good about yourself you must do X and Y. That when you look in the mirror you should constantly strive to be more. And honestly? It’s exhausting. What the ads and magazines and shows don’t tell you though, is that your self-worth is not synonymous with any of these things! In fact, the methods of measurement don’t even work! Just like you wouldn’t measure the length of a table with a measuring cup, you can’t measure your self-worth with your weight, number of likes you receive or bank account either!

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Your worth is not measured by the number on the scale. 

Whether you weigh yourself daily or the only time you are weighed is at the doctor’s office, the number on the scale does not define you. That number holds an odd power because it can make you feel bummed or excited and rarely anything in-between in a matter of seconds. But here’s the thing… your body weight fluctuates and by attaching such strong emotions to a number, it gives it the power to change your outlook. And that number is only a small measurement of one thing and if you are twenty pounds underweight or overweight or somewhere in between, it will never be able to really measure the type of person you are. Also falling under this category for inaccurate measurements of worth are the number of times you went to the gym this week or the size that you take into the fitting room.

Your worth is not measured by the amount of likes you get on Facebook and Instagram.

Since we live in a digital world where a large portion of our social interaction happens online, it makes sense that we might get confused here. When we receive likes on a post, we feel good and in turn, feel good about ourselves. The reverse sometimes happens too, as when we don’t receive a lot of likes for a certain photo, we wonder if it really isn’t that good of a picture at all and begin to doubt ourselves. But the response we receive is just that… a response, based on a pixelated image on a screen and doesn’t say anything about who you really are.

Your worth is not measured by the amount of money in your bank account.

Money can measure many things (aka how much something costs) but it can’t measure who you are as a person. This one feels so cut and dry and yet it’s one that I think a lot of people struggle with. If you don’t have that much money then you might feel ashamed or embarrassed and let that define you. But if you have a lot of money then that doesn’t make you a better person either. It’s something that we judge ourselves and others on by attaching attributes to it like driven or successful, when really, those qualities aren’t defined by how much money you have in the bank.

So tell me, what other things don’t define your worth?

How to Eat Gluten-Free at Chipotle

When you have food allergies, dining out can be extremely difficult which is why I created my Gluten-Free Spotlight series. It’s a way that I can share with all of you great gluten-free destinations in the Bay Area and beyond. Usually the places I highlight are specialty restaurants and bakeries that only have one location. Today, however, I wanted to share with you a great gluten-free option that has locations all across the country, and abroad! Due to the many locations, Chipotle is perfect for when you are traveling and might not have access to many safe gluten-free restaurants. If you have never been to a Chipotle, it is fast Mexican food that is delicious! You order at the counter and are able to pick and choose everything that goes into your burrito bowl or tacos. This is a gluten-free guy or gal’s dream because you don’t have to worry about what is happening back in the kitchen, but can actually see it for yourself. It has taken me a little while to figure out how to order safely and avoid cross-contamination at Chipotle and I wanted to share with you my tips.

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5 Tips for Eating Gluten-Free at Chipotle

1. Tell the person making your meal that you have a severe gluten allergy and ask them to please wash their hands and change their gloves. Most Chipotle employees are familiar with this and are happy to do it. (Word to the wise: After they change their gloves, watch that they don’t put their hands back on the tortillas… It seems like this wouldn’t happen but sometimes it does.)

2. Request that the person who has recently changed their gloves be the only one who makes your meal.

3. If you like to put lettuce or cheese on your burrito bowl or tacos, request that they use a fresh container of lettuce or cheese. (If they use an existing one, then their gloves continuously touch the tortillas and then the lettuce/cheese, therefore, contaminating it.)

4. If you are concerned about the utensils that touch the flour tortillas touching your meal, they are often happy to change those out as well.

5. Watch the process carefully to ensure that all safe practices are followed and thank the person making your meal for enabling you to eat at Chipotle safely!

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And then enjoy your delicious Chipotle meal! If you can eat corn, then you can also have the crispy corn tacos or add-on some corn chips to round out your meal! (I can no longer have them, but Chipotle chips are absolutely delicious!) If you have other food allergies, check out this link to the Chipotle site where there is a great chart. Also, if you are Paleo, you can still eat at Chipotle too! I order a large bed of the shredded lettuce with chicken and topped with medium salsa! You could also go for a variety of their other meat options and add the fajita veggies too, simply skipping the rice and beans!

Question:

-What’s your favorite Chipotle (or other Mexican restaurant) order?

Paleo Asian Broccoli Slaw Salad

The Bay Area is currently experiencing a heat wave and I’m absolutely loving it. With temperatures in the 80s it has felt like Summer and the other day I even got a sunburn after sitting outside having coffee with a friend. (Although, I’m not sure if that says more about the heat or for the fact that I’m incredibly pale these days. Clearly I need to re-read my post on sun care and avoiding getting burnt!) As the days are warmer and the nights stay light longer, the last thing I want to do is stand in a hot kitchen which means that something quick to put together and cold is the perfect solution. The other night I created this Paleo Broccoli Slaw salad and it was incredibly delicious! If you are new to broccoli slaw, it is a great alternative to traditional coleslaw as it shares the same crunchy taste but has more health benefits! I know that this is definitely going to be a summer staple at my house and it also would be fantastic to take to a party as it will travel well. Of course, you can add chicken (or tofu if vegetarian and not paleo) to this but I like it as is!

Paleo Asian Broccoli Slaw Salad

Paleo Asian Broccoli Slaw Salad

Salad Ingredients:

  • 1 bag of Broccoli Slaw (approx. 12 oz)
  • 2 cups chopped Snow Peas (Snap Peas will also work)
  • 1 Cucumber, de-seeded and chopped
  • 3 Carrots, chopped
  • 3 Green Onions, chopped
  • 1/2 Bunch Cilantro, chopped, putting 2 T. aside
  • 1/2 C. Almonds, chopped
  • 2 T. Sesame Seeds

Dressing Ingredients:

  • 1/4 C. Olive Oil
  • 1/8 C. Coconut Aminos (or GF Tamari if not strict paleo)
  • 1/8 C. Tahini
  • 1/8 C. Unseasoned Rice Vinegar
  • 1/2 T. Toasted Sesame Oil
  • 1/2 T. Minced Fresh Ginger
  • 1 Garlic Clove, Minced
  • 1 T. Sriracha (or to taste)
  • Half of Fresh Lime, juiced

Note: I like my salads lightly dressed so I used only 1/4 cup of dressing and had some leftover but people who enjoy more dressing may want their salad coated more thoroughly. 

Directions: 

1. Chop cucumber, carrot, snow peas, green onions, cilantro and almonds.

2. Combine the above, except for the almonds, with the broccoli slaw mixture in a large bowl.

3. Add all dressing ingredients, except for the olive oil, to blender or food processor and blend until combined.

4. On a slow speed, combine olive oil into mixture.

5. Pour salad dressing on salad and toss thoroughly, coating mixture.

6. Add almonds, sesame seeds and garnish with cilantro. Enjoy!

Question:

What’s your favorite warm-weather recipe?

Top 5 Favorite Beauty Vloggers

I’ve been in the blog world for quite some time now (almost 4 years!) and even before that was reading blogs for about a year. I’m constantly discovering new blogs on a variety of topics and my Feedly continues to grow with new subscriptions. However, over the past year, I’ve discovered the world of Vloggers, or video bloggers. In the past, I looked at YouTube as a place to watch movie trailers or viral videos, but that’s all changed since I discovered Beauty Vloggers. For many of the women I watch, vlogging is their full-time job which you can tell, due to their well-lit, skillfully edited videos. Watching them has certainly reignited my passion for beauty as you may be able to tell, and I’m now racking up Beauty Insider points at Sephora. Since I thought they might inspire you as well, here are my top-5 (er, 6) beauty vloggers. Oh, and I’m a bit of an Anglophile so many of them are British!

1. Fleur de Force

FLeur

Fleur is a twenty-something beauty and fashion vlogger who is as personable as she is talented. She uploads videos every Monday and Friday and I always love her beauty and skincare recommendations. Lately she has been wearing her hair in the most amazing braids and I am determined to figure out how to do one on myself! I also love her sense of fashion as well and some of my favorite videos are her “Get Ready with Me” or her fashion hauls. She also has a vlog channel and her vlogs are always so fun as she takes the camera around with her throughout her exciting daily activities.

2. Glam Life Guru

Tati

Tati is the ultimate beauty guru. She used to be a full-time make-up artist and has worked at the counters of Bare Escentuals and MAC so she really knows her products well. She also is into drugstore beauty and has made me look at shopping for beauty at the drugstore completely differently. Before, I saw it only as a place to buy mascara, but through Tati I’ve learned that there are lots of dupes for high-end products on the shelves of CVS and Walgreens! She also posts videos 5 days a week which is amazing and every Thursday is Hot or Not Thursday where she gives you the real review of products, which is definitely my favorite feature of her channel.

3. Essie Button

Essie

Estee is a Canadian living in where-else, London! She comes off as totally real and is also hilarious. Her skin care suggestions are always amazing and it was through her that I discovered my favorite Fresh Sugar Lip Treatment. (I have the shade Berry but have been eyeing the Rose Extreme as well!) Like Fleur, Estee has a vlog channel as well, which are more “follow me around” type videos that feature her boyfriend Aslan and dog, Reggie. Their vlogs are some of my favorites to watch as they are always going and doing fun things around London which reminds me of my beloved study abroad time!

4. Amelia Liana

Amelia

As many of the UK Beauty vloggers are friends, I discovered Amelia through Estee. Amelia is one of those girls who always looks flawless, both in her outfits and her makeup. She is the queen of the smoky eye and nude lip and has me considering using tape to create the perfect smoky eye like she does! She has great style and I love her fashion videos even if I can’t afford what she’s wearing! She also seems totally down to earth and sweet which really comes across in her videos. Oh and she has the cutest little fluffy dog, Duke who often makes an appearance in her videos.

5. Vivianna Does Make-Up/Lily Pebbles

Lily & Anna

I’m kind of cheating here as these are two separate youtubers, but I couldn’t narrow them down! I’m counting it as 5 though as they often do videos together like their monthly Beauty Chats. These are some of my favorite videos as they answer beauty questions they’ve been asked on Twitter and the videos were so popular that they just went on tour doing the same thing! They are also responsible for many of my recent favorite products! Anna made me fall in love with Ash booties and Nars Cruella lip pencil and Lily got me hooked on the Nars Creamy Radiant concealer.

Questions:

-Do you watch any Beauty Vloggers?

-What’s a beauty product someone else convinced you to buy?